Dealing with mothers-in-law can be an absolute nightmare, especially when it come to the actual wedding. This is a story about a bride-to-be whose mother-in-law bought a herself wedding dress to wear to her wedding. And then the internet told the poor bride-to-be that she was overreacting!
A bride-to-be posting under the username natalie204 went on to Mumsnet looking for advice about a problem she had with her partner’s mother. The bride-to-be was very upset that her mother-in-law had bought herself a full length white gown to wear to the wedding!
While many Mumsnet users agreed that it isn’t good etiquette to wear all white or cream to a wedding, they did point out that nobody would mistake the mother-in-law for the bride. While some other users agreed with the bride-to-be that her mother-in-law was completely out of line, most told her that she was simply overreacting!
Posting under the username natalie204 she explained her soon to be mother-in-law (MIL) had shown her a photo of the dress and jacket she’d bought for the upcoming nuptials.
natalie204: “Mil showed me a photo of her dress and jacket she has bought for our wedding it’s beautiful floor length white evening dress and white jacket. But i was brought up to never wear just white/cream to a wedding as a guest. I mentioned that it’s not good etiquette to wear all white to a wedding. She was shocked and had never heard this before, my comment has now made things frosty. I know my family will mention to her on the day how it’s not appropriate to be wearing white. Am i correct or is it just a regional thing (OH and his family are from a different part of the country)”
She asked if it could be a regional thing as her partner and her family are from a different part of the country.
DollyBarton: “It’s not good etiquette BUT I think applies less to the MOTB and MOTG as in all honesty, nobody would ever mistake them for the bride. I would think your MIL is feeling a bit down about what she obviously thought was a lovely outfit and now probably feel awkward about wearing after your comments. If she is generally nice, I’d go back and say her outfit is beautiful and you hope she wasn’t put off it by your clumsy comment.”
MajesticSeaFlapFlap: “I think it’s fine. Everyone in the church knows it’s you getting married. And I would hope that my family had been brought up with better manners and wouldn’t mention it to cause any silliness at my wedding”
Bambambini: “But why would your family actually bring this up on your wedding day with her? You ok with that?”
Heirhelp: “Only the bride wears white/cream to a wedding. She will look a bit crazy dressed like that. Which part of the country are you from? I am from the NE and it is a definite no from me.”
CaroleService: “Spill something on her! Or choose a scarlet wedding dress to really p* her off”
MoreCakePleaseMrs: “Thanks everyone. MIL has never actually ever taken to me, been with my partner 10 years, 2 kids and still very much not keen on me. My fil likes me a lot. I can tell my family not to say something but they’re adults. The dress is from monsoons bridal range. A beautiful dress. I think she will look beautiful in it, obviously it’s not that people will think she’s the bride. I’ve just been brought up to not wear only white/ivory/cream to a wedding”
HouseworkIsASin10: “She will look like Mrs Havisham and you will look gorgeous 😀 Have a lovely wedding day!”
Titanias[censored]: “Utter [censored] that she didn’t know. Of course she did, and her frostiness was due to her banking on you not daring to challenge her on it, and you not complying. If it’s any consolation, people will think she looks ridiculous. I was at a wedding years ago where the MOB wore a long white dress and a white hat with a veil, FFS, and everyone had a similar “my god, what on earth was she thinking??!” reaction.”
However some still thought the bride-to-be was making a fuss over nothing.
SuburbanRhonda: “But surely if you’re going to be such a stickler for tradition only a virgin bride would wear white.”
Ifailed: “Which is more important, getting married or what people wear to the ceremony? If the former, good luck; hope you have a wonderful day and enjoy a long and harmonious marriage. If the latter, you probably shouldn’t be getting married.”